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May 4, 2017 By KristinaGrum

Fidget toys that won’t drive you crazy

Fidgets are great for kids who need help focusing, calming, or keeping their hands busy. Fidget spinners are everywhere but can be distracting to others. Here's a list of fidgets that are quiet and don't distract others.

“Mom, can you take me to Learning Express?  There’s something I want to get.”
“Sure, what is it?”
“I can’t explain it.  It’s something for your hands.  It’s supposed to help with fidgeting.”
“Do you know what it looks like?”
“Yes, Colin has one.”

Yes, my child wanted a fidget spinner.

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By now you’ve probably seen, or at least heard of, fidget spinners.  There are different models like this one or this one, which are similar to what our daughter bought that day.

I have a fidget problem.

I constantly need to move my hands and hold things in them.  If you’ve ever seen me teach a class or speak at an event, you are guaranteed to see me with something in my hands.  Even when I do a webinar or a Facebook live event, I have to have something in my hands.

As someone who has ADHD, has 2 children with ADHD, and is constantly needing to move my hands, these fidget spinners seemed odd to me.  I’ve spent my whole life making my own adaptations and learning ways to be productive.  At first glance, fidget spinners and fidget cubes looked more distracting than anything else.  I couldn’t understand how they would help to focus people.

Fidgets are good for kids when they’re learning because it helps them use the left and right side of their brains.  It’s also good for a child who needs:

  • repetitive motion
  • busy hands
  • sensory input
  • help with active listening
  • to calm children

But fidgets are usually quiet.  Fidget spinners are new and the only fidget I’ve really seen that makes noise – even if it isn’t necessarily loud.  There are a lot of debates right now over whether spinner fidgets should be allowed in the classroom.  Teachers are finding them distracting and disturbing other students.  The other night Katherine was reading a book while using her fidget spinner.  I had started writing this post and was so distracted that I had to ask her to stop.  A few days later I was trying to write this post again and Matt was working on his laptop next to me.  He was playing with the fidget spinner and again, I was too distracted to finish this post.

Fidgets are great for kids who need help focusing, calming, or keeping their hands busy. Fidget spinners are everywhere but can be distracting to others. Here's a list of fidgets that are quiet and don't distract others.

Now that we have 3 in the house I can tell you they don’t help me (or our kids) to focus.  They distract the user and the people around.  They are tons of fun – even Matt is learning how to do tricks with them!

We’ve always had fidget toys in our house.  We’ve used them for homework and one of our girl’s teachers actually has a fidget box in the classroom that we have contributed to.

We have over 20 fidgets in our house for almost every part of the body and none of these make noise or distract others.  Here’s our list:

Hand fidgets

Wood Fidget Puzzle
These are my absolute favorite fidget toys.  I hold it in my hand and move the cubes all around.  I don’t need to look at it, it doesn’t make a sound, and it doesn’t distract anyone else.

There’s also this one which looks more fun.  But personally, I find the colors more distracting.

Fidget Widget

Squishy starfish

Tangles

Stretchy String

This stretchy string can stretch 2 feet longer than the one above.

Hourglass Fidget

This one is neat too but it can be distracting because you want to see the cool colors move.  However, this could be a great calming tool for kids to watch while they work on calming themselves down

Monkey Rings

Atom Balls

Pull and Stretch Balls

Stress Ball

Another stress ball 

Squishy Stress Balls

Chewable fidgets

Chewable Pencil toppers

Chewable Necklace

Rainbow Chewable Necklace

Soccer Ball Chewable Necklace

Tactile Chewable Ruler

Foot fidgets

Chair bands

Spiky massage balls

Foot roller

Whole body fidgets

Stability seat

Wedge seat cushion

Do you know of any other fidgets that aren’t distracting?  If so, share them in the comments so we can try them out!

xoxo
–k

Check out my tips on how to be productive with ADHD

If you or your child have been diagnosed with ADHD, or just have difficulty focusing, these strategies will help you get things done!

If you or your child have been diagnosed with ADHD, or just have difficulty focusing, these strategies will help you get things done!

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Sometimes emotions are too big for our children to be able to process. It's important we teach them to manage them and that starts with teaching them these 3 ways to calm themselves down.

Sometimes emotions are too big for our children to be able to process. It’s important we teach them to manage them and that starts with teaching them these 3 ways to calm themselves down.

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Fidgets are great for kids who need help focusing, calming, or keeping their hands busy. Fidget spinners are everywhere but can be distracting to others. Here's a list of fidgets that are quiet and don't distract others.

Connecting with your kids only gets harder as they get older. Here are 3 ways to connect with your children individually.

April 16, 2020 By KristinaGrum

3 ways to connect with your kids individually

It’s funny how when the kids are little the days seem to drag on. I remember the days when Kate would do nothing but cry and scream all day and wonder when the heck 6 pm would be coming. I also remember the days that she would roll and play on the floor and I…

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October 4, 2017 By KristinaGrum

5 things I do every day to connect with my kids

in the midst of busy days, I work really hard to make sure each of our three children gets enough one-on-one time with me and my husband.  I found that as we had more kids, connecting with them individually become much harder.  I’m also realizing as they get older, it’s harder to make time for…

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Mother’s Day can be stressful for everyone. Make it easy by giving one of these 5 gifts that most moms won’t tell you they want for Mother’s Day.

May 11, 2017 By KristinaGrum

What most mothers won’t tell you they want for Mother’s Day

This week is when partners all over the country are scrambling to figure out what to get for a Mother’s Day gift.  They’ll think about what they can buy and wonder if it should be: a gift for her (i.e., jewelry) a gift for the house (i.e., a blender) a gift for the family (i.e.,…

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